Busy is a Decision

[vc_column][vc_column_text delay="0"]“Busy is a decision” (Debbie Millman, from Tribe of Mentors).


This quote caught my attention and led me down a rabbit-hole of thoughts.  I realized many of us use this excuse, myself included.  I thought to myself, am I really busy; or am I using busy as an excuse?


We make decisions to do what we want to do. If I really want to do it, I would make an effort to have the opportunity to do it. Saying, “I am too busy” to do something usually means that thing is not important to you and you do not want to do it or you give people an imagine that you are too occupied.  Why not just say no? I certainly need to be better about saying no to things. Especially if I have no interest in it, or if it does not bring any value to my priorities. If it is truly, something I want to do or if it is important to me, I always make time for it. A thought I have been trying to remind myself, no one owes you anything, and you do not owe anyone anything.  Grudges are easily formed when people think they are owed something.


Just because we invest our time into important priorities does not mean there will not be any challenges or obstacles to endure.  For every decision we make there is some sort of obstacle, I now realize why so many successful people enjoy the process.


On this journey you will have many success’, but many more failures to face. In my opinion and I am sure many of you feel the same, failures are the most critical things we can learn from if we remember and accept their existence. Maybe one reason why history is important to learn?-I won’t go down a rabbit hole on this topic.  I have been trying to remind myself, that every day we get is precious. We easily forget the possibility that the next day may not come. I certainly have let myself get into that habit of not making the most out of my time.  So reminding myself that every day I get to wake up and breath is an opportunity to do something great, productive, and most importantly to live.  Also, reminding myself of the things that bring me bliss (GREAT HAPPINESS) and to feel like you are truly living, and to endure for that bliss.


“Thinking of what makes me happy doesn’t give me the same clarity as thinking about what gives me bliss.”(Kyle Maynard, Tribe of Mentors)


We spend far too much time complaining about the way things are, and forget that we have the power to change anything and everything.”(Bozoma Saint John, Tribe of Mentors)


If there are things in our life that bring us stress and unhappiness, we have the power to change it, and let it go.  We do not have an obligation to keep things of that nature in our life.  We have allowed ourselves to think that it is the norm to be stressed. I believe stress and pressure are two different things. Changing my mindset to only allow things that allow me to “live”, and invest my time in things and people that allow me to live; give me purpose; and most importantly bliss-from now on I will keep this in mind. Life is not supposed to be dreadful, it should be fulfilling. Change your mindset, change your perspective, change your life.





author: Marc Dobbels


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